I think that suppressing sexual expression and sexual urges usually ends up making things worse in the long run. Religion is notorious for encouraging people to deny their sexuality and any sexual urges they may have. Because of the way religion has treated sexuality throughout history the topic has become taboo in some ways in Western culture. Statistically it has been shown that areas that teach “abstinence only” generally have a higher rate of teenage pregnancy. Children aren’t educated the way they should be regarding sex.

With that said though, as far as actually saving sex until marriage I see no problem with it if it is a decision someone has entered into on their own. Many people will chose to wait until after marriage to have sex for reasons other than religion. If someone makes that choice, it should be respected. Everyone should be free to chose what they feel is personally best for them when it comes to sex.

I think the motivation in this situation is a big factor. If someone is simply waiting until marriage because they believe it is what “God” wants but not necessarily what they want they are being forced to repress their own desires and natural urges. They are being forced to suppress their own humanity because they’re worried they’ll be shamed by all knowing sky daddy. That should not be their motivation, people should not be forced to deny what they want when it causes no harm to others.