Whenever we love we must deal with feelings of vulnerability and risk in relation to the loved person. We must grapple with the possibility that our hearts can be broken and that we can lose the loved person to betrayal, rejection, divorce, or death. Ultimately we do not have control over his or her feelings and actions. At the same time,on a daily basis, we must trust that the beloved will be there for us. In order to sustain a relationship over time, we must handle these existential contradictions of adult love by managing our fears and vulnerabilities in ways that are not detrimental to the relationship.
|—||MICHELE SCHEINKMAN (In article “Disarming Jealousy in Couples Relationships: A Multidimensional Approach SCHEINKMAN & WERNECK.)|